Points to help with Narcisists

This is more than likely something you all already know about Narcisists but I will bring this information to you in hopes you will be able to let go of your anger towards them and learn to take your power back.

There are facts about narcissists that most people overlook, because most people do not work within the "me" mindset. They also don't think constantly of winning and taking control of another, however narcissists live off of this power they gain.

1. Engaging in smear campaigns

Once you get deep into the relationship, they have you where they want you. If you move into
a new neighborhood, they will talk to every neighbor you have, they will tell them you are a horrible
person, they will whisper and act like you are controlling everything they do in front of these people
making you look like the control freak. If they have friends, they will drive you to distraction with
bullshit and nonsense before the friends come over, so all they see is you being angry and frustrated.

Guaranteed if they meet anyone before you, that person has been told you are constantly angry,
you are selfish, and self centered...you not they are the needy one...any attempt you make to gain self
sefeciancy will be met with no help from anyone, because once they meet you, the narcisist will in
fact become quiet and act like a saint. In the meantime everyone will attack you "for" the narcissist,
because narcissists can't win battles on their own.

The best way to deal with this is to love yourself to life!!!

Engage in conversations that have nothing to do with what you just talked about,
anything the narcisist knows will get your goat, stear away from that conversation
and if the friends try to get you into the conversation, walk away and do something
you love doing...just avoid them all together.

2. Sex and jealousy as a weapon

Narcisists will see things are as "they" want them to be and all of a sudden, sex with you is onesided
or unimportant, because any real heartfelt connection is never going to happen with a Narcissist.

If you get uncomfortable and start to love yourself, take care of yourself and not get to close to
them anymore because you feel unwanted and unloved, they all of a sudden become GOD/GODDESS
of all things romantic or sexy. Why you ask, they feel your power and life comming back to you
and that can not happen.

If this isn't working they start the jealousy trap, if that isn't working, they will tell everyone
you are a whore/player, and they will enlist people to approach you and come on strong, hoping you
are so starved for attention that you will fall for any accolade from anyone!!!

Sex is a deep conncetion, something the narcisist is not able to mimic.

Sure they are good at playing on people's emotions but having any true emotions of their own,
it will never happen. Sex and love are sacred and when used as a weapon can hurt the purest of souls.
Love yourself enough so none of this works, step back for a minute and just know you are
sacred and worth a sacred, true, healthy, lasting love. Keep this in the front of your mind at all
times.

3. Gaslighting...errr

The Narcisist will seem to have a poor memory about everything they do wrong, or they will omit the
key points of a situation to make you feel like you are not remembering what happened correctly. The words
" That is not what I ment to say" or "You are so sensitive, I can't beleive you are still taking about this" or
"Your crazy, I never said that, stop trying to make me look demonic" they will pour out of the narcisists mouth
faster than Usain Bolt at the Olympic's.

Unfortunately the other side of Gaslighting is moving things around, taking things of yours for days and hiding
them, then when you ask, where it could have possibly gone "it suddenly appears again!" This is all done
to discredit you and make you look like a crazy person, like you need help!!!

How do you deal with gaslighting? Ignore it!!!

Just not care, literally say "Well, I am sure it will show up!" or mmm...and laugh, move on and keep your day
happy and adjusted to a higher frequency... trust me whatever it is,  unless you need it to save a life, will either
show up or it won't, but you will live on. Trust your memory to know what you have said and done, keep your answers short and to the point...move on!!!

4. The Opposite Game

In order for the narcisist to have control over you they have to first  make you think everything you do
is unimportant and no one else cares. You like vegitatrian food, they tell you its dangerous and you need
meat. You like comedy, they hate it. You see truth love and light in everything, they remind you that just
the other day you had a moment of  "sometimes it seems like the world is getting darker."  You like to travel,
they like to stay home. You like people, they hate people.

Narcissists are the biggest fear mongers in the world, they live in a world of opposites in order to keep the
wheel of attention on them going.  All of this, is to get you to question if you are in fact being your authentic
self, and if they can do this, they have you... that is when the transference happens, and they can make you
more like them...in order to discredit you.

Screw that shit,  liberally...but I digress...lol

Like what you like, be yourself, love the things you love with a passion. Be powerful in your inner truth, reach
out and drink life in, every sip...drink it in with love, be love, be light, be you!

5. Avoidance of deep emotions or empathy

This one is the worst and can break you if you are fragile. Lets say something horrible happens, you get very sick
or you have a very bad thing happen to you. Narcisists will downplay it, they will tell people " Oh they aren't that
bad" or its nothing or they will go into " they always get sick or something happens to them when I need them
the most!" This my friends, is fucked up! Becuse if it an't working to their benefit...they will make you the
needy emotion draining one, and you become the STIGMA!!!  Oddly, all because they can't feel a damn thing other
than self gratification and outside ego petting! 

***JUST take care of yourself and run, because this is proof positive they are not what anyone needs!***

6. Stealing credit/ Sabatoging dreams/ Transference

The Narcisistic person has  to be the best at everything, even something they're not skilled at. They will
learn from other's all they think they need to know, they will take credit for the actions of others and
their idea's and if something looks great " It was the narcissists idea to begin with!" If you have a dream
or goal that doesn't include them you can just forget about it. You will hear " why would you want to do that"
or " haven't you done that  already and failed at it" or " I can't do that, so I can't help you," "I don't want
to talk about that it's not my thing!"

This is in hopes you will forget about this endeavour and move on, or lose hope in making it happpen and
divert your attention back to what they're doing.  Any attempt you make, or outside help you get
they will find a way to get those people to ignore you, making you feel hopelss and needy and a looser.
Remember, they work in the realm of transference and agrandising themselves. They need your energy
to work with and if that energy is going to anything but them or their endeavours, you become the enemy...

Hey man/woman...You do you, I'll do me

If you are a powerhouse, be one! If you are artistic, or hyper intelligent/ sensitive, or super loving,
or you have the ability to bring out the greatness in all you meet, be it, do it! Your mission
in life is not to play small to someone else's big ego! Be everything and anything your talents
take you to. This is where you power is, this is where you become you! SHINE!!!

Now, some of you may read this and understand it. Some of you may read this and say that is
just a little harsh, its not. We all have traits that bring our ego to the front line, the difference
is, if you have empathy and can relate to others and not live in fear you can and will be good
sometimes and bad sometimes, yet, you will be within the realm of love!

Draw your line in the sand, if people look at you funny because of the bullshit spewed by someone
who is narcissistic, brush it off, it will be hard but the best defense in life is you being your authentic
self. NAMASTE, I LOVE YOU and carry on!!!!